Getting tied up instantly boosts the sexual energy because it brings in the element of vulnerability. Plus, you can focus entirely on being pleasured since you're not able to reciprocate," says Gloria Brame, PhD, a sex therapist in Georgia. Naughty move : Lie on the bed with your hands tied together, and let him devour you. Have him start with a tease by holding his first and second fingers in a V, placing them on either side of your clitoris, and massaging in a scissoring motion. Then he can use side-to-side motions with his tongue to get you really worked up.