Maybe you've seen the recent video that purports to show "what actually happens when gay guys see other gay guys and straight people aren't around. Upon recognizing one another's gayness, and realizing they're in a space utterly devoid of heterosexuality, the three men launch into some light runway…. The underlying tension of the scene stems from the idea that these men are only free—or perhaps safe —to unleash their purest gay selves in the company of others like them. Halperin writes in How to be Gay. Because masculinity is the only "natural and authentic identity" in a patriarchal society, expressing one's femininity is viewed as a performance on top of that state of being. A feminine "performance" can prove dangerous for men, regardless of sexuality, just as failing to sufficiently "perform" femininity can prove dangerous for women.
Does wearing a silver ring on your right-hand ring finger mean you're gay? As it does if you are artsy, bookish and "alternative"? A few years back, if you were wearing these kinds of accessories, like rings and earrings, people would point the finger at you for being queer. These days, the description of the quintessential homo has changed to ambiguous at best and less labeled. Damaging stereotypes and generalizations of queers from the older days still linger on today. We gay people are a diverse and broad group of individuals, who come in all shapes and sizes and personalities and dress. When many people think about gay men, they automatically associate them with certain stereotypes and generalizations, such as feminine behavior or a certain type of clothing.
Have you ever wondered how gay men are able to recognise one another? Since you clicked on this article, I assume that you do. In fact, this is actually something that I get asked pretty often. For some weird reason, straight people seem pretty keen to find out how gay men seem to have the uncanny ability to suss one another out.
Meeting gay guys is hard. First you have to determine if the guy you're interested in is gay or straight. Then you have to approach him and strike up a conversation.